Who doesn’t want to have a strong(er) personality? We all aim to look powerful, to have our solid individual opinion and to be a leader instead of a follower. However, what does personality actually mean?
The definition of personality can differ from person to person, which makes it hard to define. Nevertheless, here are some common viewpoints:
“The combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual’s distinctive character.” – Oxford Dictionary
“It’s a patterned body of habits, traits, attitudes and ideas of an individual.” – Sociology Guide
“Relatively stable, consistent and distinctive set of mental and emotional characteristics a person exhibits when alone, or when interacting with people and his or her external environment.” – Business Dictionary
To describe personality, the word characteristic is often used, which simply means:
“A feature or quality belonging typically to a person and serving to identify it.” – Oxford Dictionary
So our characteristics define our personality, right?
You might have guessed: today’s focus is to strengthen your weaknesses in such a way that they lead to a greater personality.
Let’s dig a little deeper into this…
Make them your characteristics
Want to be the frontrunner in your social environment? Want your social circle to look forward to meet you? Or, you just want to be genuine towards people?
Honesty, kindness, positive attitude and approach are key!
I have experienced that honesty and kindness can get you very far. People admire it if you are honest with them, if you seem effortlessly caring towards them and comfortable in your own skin.
Moreover, I feel that a positive attitude is crucial when meeting a lot of people or hanging out with your social circle, because (1) you want to have a good time regardless of the stupid politics being played around you, (2) your positivity might affect others which can lead to a good time for everyone or, simply, (3) it’s an amazing state of mind to have.
What helped me maintain a positive attitude is very simple: ignorance.
Don’t get me wrong here – ignorance doesn’t mean making a face to the other person and moving on. However, it’s being mature enough to just laugh it out gently.
There is no need to unnecessarily criticise or to let your feelings go:
- you won’t get anything out of it;
- you might hurt your own reputation/self-esteem;
- you just don’t want to waste your time and energy on negativity.
Easy – Peasy.
I know, it’s not… It shouldn’t keep you from trying.
This gets us to our last element: approach. It might sound straightforward that all human beings are not alike. Yet, it’s often overlooked. You must be able to adapt your approach on a person-to-person basis. We all know a bit about so called people knowledge. This can help you to identify how a person is, a bit of how he/she thinks, likes/dislikes and so forth. Even so, don’t overlook on giving yourself time to get to know him/her.
Maintain your principals
I believe that every human being is beautiful and has his/her strengths.
Being true to yourself means to be loyal to yourself: act as who you are and what you believe. I think it’s easier when you love yourself, because then believing in yourself and keeping your principals clear becomes effortless.
Self-respect comes from being true to who you really are. Once you get this right, others will start noticing that you are strong and capable of standing up for yourself, the truth and the good in which you believe.
Of course, this won’t happen overnight, it takes courage. Those who are most successful in life have dared to creatively express themselves and, in turn, broadened the experiences and perspectives of everyone else.
Don’t let others define you, be confident and allow your individuality and uniqueness to shine through!
Your appearance speaks loud
I feel that confidence and arrogance lye far from each other – please do comment if you disagree!
A few days back I was reading an article about being confident without being arrogant, and I just couldn’t agree more with what they wrote.
It said: people who are trying hard to come across as confident can mistakenly behave arrogantly, simply because they haven’t figured out what real confidence is.
Moreover, when you fake it (consciously or unconsciously), people will get to know and then you are even further away from having a good personality.
Giving your opinion without thinking, in order to just talk, is not confidence. Continuously pushing on your perspective is, again, not confidence.
Confidence is not in talking, but in walking! Your body language and the way you carry yourself are critical.
Inner beauty shines brighter than outer
The author Kate Angell once said: “Outer beauty attracts, but inner beauty captivates.”
I definitely agree with this. I have always felt that you step towards a person due to outer attraction – “Aawh, she’s a pretty girl” or “Wow! Look at that handsome guy” or “She/he looks nice” – but then sometimes as soon as that person opens his/her mouth you feel like running away (just exaggerating!).
The point I want to make here is: sometimes the outer doesn’t match the expected inner beauty.
Let’s define the two first.
Outer beauty: Physical beauty that plays an important part in attracting people towards you. It’s visible for everyone.
Inner beauty: Positive aspects of someone that are not physically visible. Most common qualities of inner beauty include: kindness, sensitivity, tenderness, compassion, creativity and intelligence.
Outer beauty definitely defines what you look like and who is attracted to you, whereas inner beauty defines who you are! People might be attracted to you due to your looks, but eventually become a good friend or the life partner everyone seeks for the kind person you are within.
Feel beautiful from the inside, because:
Inner beauty shines brighter…
Be confident not arrogant, because:
Confidence isn’t about comparing, rather it’s only about you…
Just be who you truly are, because:
There is no need to fake it…
Hope you this was inspiring and made sense to you all!
xx – Ankita